My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years but things have been different over the past year. She feels like a different person but looks the same. It's hard to describe in words. The behavior changes are numerous. I've logged into the home computer to find adult videos on my chrome welcome page. I've tried to take the hint to see what acts the videos depict in an effort to include that in our private time, but she's been watching a very specific type of genre that I cannot replicate. I've been having issues dealing with that as well. She has more frequent work meetings that require her to stay at work late. She wakes up smiling as she "checks her emails". I've always believed in trust and have never even considered looking at her phone but I have been wanting to plan a special 10 year anniversary trip and now I don't know if I should go through with it or face this issue head on.
Should I speak to her about this or plan the trip and hope that I am wrong about what I feel?